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One-night stands will be thrilling. That’s, in the event you’re not left ‘haunted’ by them.
This week, a 20-year-old reader shares how he not too long ago went house with two girls of their fifties who occur to buddies together with his mom.
The massive downside? He has a girlfriend, though she doesn’t appear too fussed about the entire thing.
Beneath, he will get some recommendation, however earlier than you go, try final week’s dilemma, the place a reader was fearful in regards to the youthful lady his dad ‘fell for’ in Thailand.
The issue..
Perhaps this doesn’t sound like a lot of an issue, nevertheless it’s inflicting me sleepless nights. Principally, I had a one-night stand with two older girls, and the considered it’s doing my head in.
I’m a man of 20, and work as a private coach so I’ve a good physique. I additionally run an old-school cellular disco at weekends and get booked by individuals who love music from the eighties and nineties. Drunk older girls are all the time handing me telephone numbers and soiled invites, however I’ve a gentle girlfriend and simply snicker it off.
A few weeks in the past, two girls of their fifties who’re buddies of my mum, requested if I might take them house after a birthday gig. As a result of household connection, it by no means occurred to me that they’d an ulterior motive, and after they invited me in for a drink I stupidly agreed.
They’re each enjoyable to be with and enticing for his or her ages, and let’s simply say issues bought a bit out of hand. I knew I used to be doing mistaken, however intercourse with them each felt thrilling and irresistible, and to be trustworthy, we had a good time.
The subsequent day, I felt filled with regret and thru tears, blurted all of it out to my girlfriend. Amazingly, she forgave me so long as I promise by no means to do something comparable once more. That ought to make me really feel nice, however as an alternative I really feel haunted by it and don’t suppose I deserve her.
Laura says…
I’m undecided why your girlfriend didn’t dump you then and there, however these tears clearly labored in your favour. You’ve been fortunate however you’re proper, in the event you will be seduced this simply, you in all probability don’t deserve her.
It could possibly be that your girlfriend reacted in shock, and as this devastating data sinks in, she is probably not so forgiving. Don’t be shocked if she will get her personal again with a fling of her personal, which could sign the top of your relationship anyway. Perhaps you secretly concern this, and it’s the actual cause your head is so tousled.
Twenty could be very younger to calm down, and it doesn’t sound as if you’re able to dedicate your self to only one companion. You say you frequently get advances from older girls, so what makes you so positive you’ll by no means do something comparable once more? Let’s face it, you weren’t searching for love and romance together with your mum’s buddies; it was intercourse pure and easy, and by the sound of it, you loved each minute.
Perhaps tears have helped you wriggle off the hook this time, nevertheless it’s typically the case that when you’ve crossed the road and bought away with it, the second time is less complicated – and each time after that.
If that haunted feeling is real, some counselling might assist kind your head out. Within the meantime, it will in all probability be kindest to chop your girlfriend free, and let this drama subside earlier than you think about dedication once more.
Laura is a counsellor and columnist.
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