Stefan-Pierre Tomlin was topped Tinder’s most eligible bachelor (Image: Luke Johnson)
I ALWAYS thought that by the point I used to be 32, I’d have settled down. That I’d have a spouse, two youngsters and a pleasant large home in Surrey. However life didn’t fairly go that manner.
It was practically a decade in the past when a piece pal advised me in regards to the relationship app Tinder. I used to be working in Harrods in London on the time and I’d by no means had any bother assembly ladies. My colleague stated Tinder was enjoyable and that I’d do properly on it, so I signed up and shortly bought addicted.
By 2017, I’d had 14,600 right-swipes and obtained an e-mail from Tinder saying I used to be on a shortlist of the 30 most-fancied folks within the UK.
I did an interview and photoshoot with them to have fun, and some months later I used to be advised I used to be the most well-liked man on Tinder. That’s when issues went loopy. I bought greater than 1,000 messages a day. I attempted to reply as many as I may however didn’t have the time to open half of them.
I bear in mind being on a prepare from London to Kent to go to my mum quickly after and everybody had their telephones and newspapers out, studying about me being topped Mr Tinder. After I bought off the prepare, folks requested me for selfies.
I liked the eye and being ‘well-known’ – it was so thrilling, particularly as a result of the women in school who had by no means paid me any consideration began popping up in Messenger, desirous to be associates.
Stefan-Pierre began to benefit from the excessive life after he was topped Tinder’s most matched life (Image: Matt Keeble/Dave Benett/Getty Photos)
All of a sudden I used to be all around the web and began getting requested to go on relationship exhibits together with Celebs Go Relationship and, most just lately, Written In The Stars. The programmes had been nice for my modelling profession however I actually hoped they’d assist me discover love.
Whereas it was superb to be topped Mr Tinder, I had no clue about what would include it. And it’s humorous as a result of what folks usually don’t realise is that I’ve struggled with confidence.
My hair began receding on the age of twenty-two, and that was actually laborious. I attempted the whole lot – I used my mum’s eyebrow pencil to attract within the traces. I even tried a wig for some time.
Stefan-Pierre usually walks the crimson carpet at premieres (Image: Stuart C. Wilson/Getty Photos)
It wasn’t till I just lately bought a hair transplant at Dr Heal in Turkey that I can say I lastly really feel proud of myself. I went to Portugal afterwards and it was the primary time in years I may soar into the pool with out worrying about my hair.
Now I’m discovering that it’s laborious for women to see me for who I’m. They like the concept of me however they don’t realise what my way of life entails. Having the title Mr Tinder isn’t splendid for a lady who’s in search of Mr Proper.
While you become involved in a relationship with me, you get all of the perks, the glitz and glamour – the flamboyant eating places, the good holidays and the Insta-fame – however there’s a positive line between work and private life. I attempt to maintain them separate however it doesn’t at all times work.
‘I’m prepared for one thing critical. I wish to calm down and focus on having a household,’ says Stefan-Pierre (Image: Luke Johnson)
However Stefan-Pierre has struggled with confidence prior to now, having misplaced his hair when he was simply 22 (Image: Dave J Hogan/Getty Photos)
I’ve dated a number of celebrities as a result of, until you’re on this trade, you don’t actually perceive what it’s like. Women who’ve regular jobs will be overwhelmed – the approach to life includes a whole lot of travelling, and I’m additionally papped, which might trigger arguments. After I’m out and about, I get recognised and have a whole lot of footage taken with different folks, as a result of I’m a pleasant man. That may trigger jealousy.
Some weeks I’m out each evening – there’ll be premieres 3 times every week, dinners and different occasions. Or I’ll be on the fitness center within the night, so it’s fairly full-on. That’s all outdoors my precise job of working my expertise and advertising and marketing company, Blue Tick Advertising and marketing, which I’ve simply arrange.
I don’t have a lot time for an evening in with Netflix or making a meal. There will be quiet weeks however there are additionally days once I don’t have the time to eat, and that may be an enormous adjustment for any ladies who come into my life. Up to now, issues have faltered due to that.
Stefan is now in search of a girl he can share his life with (Image: Alan Chapman/Dave Benett/WireImage)
I’ve had two critical relationships since changing into Mr Tinder and I’ve been in love. However typically issues don’t work out. I nonetheless wish to meet that particular somebody. I’ve had numerous enjoyable however it may be a lonely world. I wish to be a part of a crew, to have somebody to share experiences with.
I’m prepared for one thing critical. I wish to calm down and focus on having a household. I need somebody I can share the massive experiences and little moments with – somebody to get up subsequent to and to cook dinner a meal for or go for a stroll with.
Am I single now? Previous experiences have taught me to not say an excessive amount of. However I’m joyful, having numerous enjoyable and I’m looking forward to the longer term.
Whereas it was superb to be named Mr Tinder, I had no clue about what would include it. Folks don’t realise I’ve struggled with my confidence.
As advised to Sarah Ingram.
Originally posted 2023-04-05 19:12:44.